What are the moments that consistently set you off? (Be specific—don’t just say “disrespect” or “feeling ignored.” What actually happens?)

What do you believe about yourself when you’re triggered? (Example: “I’m not taken seriously,” “I’m not good enough,” “I don’t belong here.”)

Where did this belief come from? (Was it taught to you? Did an early experience reinforce it?)

Who or what shaped your expectations of respect, success, or belonging? (Parents? Teachers? Cultural messages?)

How do you respond when you’re triggered? (Do you fight back? Shut down? Over-explain? Try to prove yourself?)

Has this reaction helped you or hurt you over time? (What has it cost you in relationships, career, or well-being?)

Do you see a pattern? (Is this trigger showing up in multiple areas of your life?)

Is your reaction aligned with your values? (Does the way you respond reflect the person you want to be?)

What’s the deeper fear beneath the trigger? (Fear of rejection? Abandonment? Not being seen as competent?)

If you could rewrite this trigger—if you could change the way it affects you—what would that look like?